Goins, Writer

On Writing, Ideas, and Making a Difference

The Small But Soul-Crushing Word You’re Using Every Day

Yes

I am notoriously bad at over-committing to things, at misjudging my time and packing my schedule full of tasks I can’t possibly accomplish. My wife will tell you this. So will my calendar. I am obsessed with yes.

I don’t know why I do this. Maybe it’s my people-pleasing nature, my need to be liked and accepted — some accomodation for never being the popular kid in middle school, I guess.

018: Gretchen Rubin: The Habits That Lead to Happiness [Podcast]

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When asked what we want out of life, many of us respond with a simple answer: “I want to be happy.” But what we often don’t realize is what we need to actually transform our lives.

Have you ever taken a moment to clarify what being “happy” means to you? What if there were actionable steps that you could take to day to reach it? That’s the very question that sent Gretchen Rubin on her journey.

017: Why You Should Solve Your Own Problems: The Story of Designing My Own Blog Theme [Podcast]

Solve your own problem

The most important life lesson I’ve learned from the Internet is this: solve your own problems and then share the solution.

If you want to get the kind of attention your work deserves and build an audience around your words, the best strategy is to share your struggles and talk about what you did to overcome them.

016: Lewis Schiff’s Road to Success: Monetization, Innovation, & Failure [Podcast]

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I’m often challenged to think differently about a long-held belief. It’s scary, but I experience growth every time I face the fear and rise to the challenge. In this episode of The Portfolio Life, Lewis Schiff challenges our ideas about becoming successful in our chosen careers.

The Secret to Having a Marriage That Never Goes Stale

The Secret to Having a Marriage that Never Goes Stale

After a recent life-changing trip to Italy, I called my best friend to—well, let’s just be honest, I called to brag.

We had traveled together during college, and I wanted to relive some of those memories with him, while sharing my latest experiences in Europe. After finishing telling him about the trip, he said the saddest thing I had heard in a long time.

015: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities: Counterintuitive Advice from Author Ryan Holiday [Podcast]

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Most of us think that to be a writer, we need to study writing. We imagine (or dread) going back to school to get an advanced degree in creative writing. But Ryan Holiday chose another path.

He realized that he could learn a lot more about writing and marketing books by studying at the feet of the people doing exactly what he wanted to learn.

The Most Trying Part of Living a Good Story

Sam and Frodo

I don’t know what life is like for you, but for me it can sometimes seem difficult.

There are things I want to do — aspirations and dreams I have for myself. And much to my surprise, I don’t always get to do that. So I huff and puff and through my little tantrums. And then I remember.

It’s a simple lesson I regularly preach to the choir, one I relentlessly remind other writers and communicators about all the time. And ironically, one I am terrible at practicing.

014: Is Content Really King? [Podcast]

Content Is King

Content is not king. Content is a fat, dethroned monarch, dis-empowered of his royal ability to influence. And he lost that power a long time ago. In other words, your words are not enough. I almost wish they were.

I know plenty of brilliant writers who don’t get the attention they deserve. Will their work eventually get noticed? Maybe. Some day. But why not now? Why not today? Because we’re believing a lie.

How Being Mistaken for a Girl Made Me a Better Blogger

The Ridiculous Case of Being Mistaken for a Girl and How That Made Me a Better Blogger

The first job I ever had was as newspaper delivery boy. I was eleven or twelve years old, was really into grunge music, which meant that I spent most of my time sitting around the house listening to music, so my parents thought a job would do me some good.

013: How to Create Your Own Freedom, Live an Adventure, & Do Work That Matters: A Chat with Chris Guillebeau [Podcast]

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Wherever you look, there are voices telling you to “live a better story” or do something “epic.” They make it sound easy. But it’s not so simple, is it? The truth is the epic life requires more than just blind courage. Few people understand this better than Chris Guillebeau.

So when I had a chance to sit down with Chris and chat about these ideas, I really wanted to know one thing: How do you live a life full of adventurous experiences and creative endeavors without going broke? That’s what we discuss in this interview.