Comments for Goins, Writer http://goinswriter.com On Writing, Ideas, and Making a Difference Thu, 17 May 2012 01:00:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by Bek Soen http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24230 Bek Soen Thu, 17 May 2012 01:00:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24230 Jeff,  I am the best and worst networker. I love talking with stranger, people I know, people I can help, people who can help  me, etc. Also I think people are naturally attracted to me because I am  in a wheelchair and I SMILE.:) Apparently this is a weird concept. You know what makes me the worst - I rarely bring business cards or any other identification to events. I am trying to get better about this! Also I am super awkward about introducing people. I don't know why I just am.  Love your post about serving people, rather than serving self. Right on! Jeff, 

I am the best and worst networker. I love talking with stranger, people I know, people I can help, people who can help  me, etc. Also I think people are naturally attracted to me because I am  in a wheelchair and I SMILE.:) Apparently this is a weird concept. You know what makes me the worst – I rarely bring business cards or any other identification to events. I am trying to get better about this! Also I am super awkward about introducing people. I don’t know why I just am. 

Love your post about serving people, rather than serving self. Right on!

]]> Comment on Five Weak Words that Make Your Writing Less Effective by Zach Schanzenbach http://goinswriter.com/weak-words/comment-page-2/#comment-24229 Zach Schanzenbach Wed, 16 May 2012 23:08:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=2623#comment-24229 How about "say?" How about “say?”

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by TylerHess http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24228 TylerHess Wed, 16 May 2012 21:29:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24228 This reminds me a lot of something I thought about and wrote about recently...except I was thinking about sales...in both cases, people want to be helped, they don't want people pushing stuff on them that isn't helpful because it is so obvious that the salesman/networker is trying to get you to do something for them instead of the other way around This reminds me a lot of something I thought about and wrote about recently…except I was thinking about sales…in both cases, people want to be helped, they don’t want people pushing stuff on them that isn’t helpful because it is so obvious that the salesman/networker is trying to get you to do something for them instead of the other way around

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by Ashley Ormon http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24227 Ashley Ormon Wed, 16 May 2012 21:10:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24227 Jeff, I think the most effective way to network is by doing favors and building a relationship. You don't come off as using people either. It's a win-win. When I network, I do favors for people -- most times without them even asking for a favor. I'll send follow-ups such as a card or email just to see how they're doing. I've noticed that when people feel comfortable with you, they'll feel comfortable with your brand, product, etc. They start recommending your work not necessarily because your products are great, but because they recommend the person behind the product: you. Jeff, I think the most effective way to network is by doing favors and building a relationship. You don’t come off as using people either. It’s a win-win.

When I network, I do favors for people — most times without them even asking for a favor. I’ll send follow-ups such as a card or email just to see how they’re doing.

I’ve noticed that when people feel comfortable with you, they’ll feel comfortable with your brand, product, etc. They start recommending your work not necessarily because your products are great, but because they recommend the person behind the product: you.

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by TCAvey http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24226 TCAvey Wed, 16 May 2012 21:03:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24226 He was! He was!

]]> Comment on When We Stop Believing the Stories We Tell by Lorie Grant DeWorken http://goinswriter.com/stories-we-tell/comment-page-1/#comment-24225 Lorie Grant DeWorken Wed, 16 May 2012 20:32:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=6754#comment-24225 Been there, done that, still doing that! My husband and I have served on the mission field for the past few years and are now "doing good stuff" but know that we need to DO and GO to live the life we're meant for and to build our story. "Live a better story" resonates big time with us. Thanks for the inspiring words and great reminders!! Been there, done that, still doing that! My husband and I have served on the mission field for the past few years and are now “doing good stuff” but know that we need to DO and GO to live the life we’re meant for and to build our story. “Live a better story” resonates big time with us. Thanks for the inspiring words and great reminders!!

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by Heather Hart http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24224 Heather Hart Wed, 16 May 2012 20:30:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24224 Love it! My writing career would have never gotten off the ground if I hadn't started volunteering for someone else. That relationship has blossomed, and I really owe all of my success to being willing to volunteer my time and writing skills way back then.  Love it! My writing career would have never gotten off the ground if I hadn’t started volunteering for someone else. That relationship has blossomed, and I really owe all of my success to being willing to volunteer my time and writing skills way back then. 

]]> Comment on Why First Impressions Aren’t Nearly as Important as We Think by Steve http://goinswriter.com/first-impressions/comment-page-1/#comment-24223 Steve Wed, 16 May 2012 20:10:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=6928#comment-24223 I agree with your point and that it takes time to develop relationships. However, first impressions matter whether we like it or not. As a marketing professional, normally the standard we discuss is that it takes 20 encounters to undo a first impression. I agree with your point and that it takes time to develop relationships. However, first impressions matter whether we like it or not. As a marketing professional, normally the standard we discuss is that it takes 20 encounters to undo a first impression.

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by Derrick Jones http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24222 Derrick Jones Wed, 16 May 2012 19:52:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24222 Ahh this a timely post as I hate networking also. I agree with you 100% on the value of serving others but I also think we need a new approach to networking and social networking in particular. I think one of the problems is we have all been taught that we cannot come right out and ask for what we want. We have to "lead" people there, which leads to a great deal of pretense and fake sincerity. I don't believe most people mean to fake. They just don't know what else to do since being direct (yet still sincere) is some sort of sin these days.  I wrote a post over on UpMarket where I suggest a different and somewhat radical approach to this crazy game. The bottom line is we all want something. I think we need a new type of networking. Here's the link: http://upmarket.squidoo.com/2012/05/16/the-crazy-dating-game-we-call-social-networking/ Ahh this a timely post as I hate networking also. I agree with you 100% on the value of serving others but I also think we need a new approach to networking and social networking in particular. I think one of the problems is we have all been taught that we cannot come right out and ask for what we want. We have to “lead” people there, which leads to a great deal of pretense and fake sincerity. I don’t believe most people mean to fake. They just don’t know what else to do since being direct (yet still sincere) is some sort of sin these days. 

I wrote a post over on UpMarket where I suggest a different and somewhat radical approach to this crazy game. The bottom line is we all want something. I think we need a new type of networking.

Here’s the link: http://upmarket.squidoo.com/2012/05/16/the-crazy-dating-game-we-call-social-networking/

]]> Comment on The Best Way to Network: Serving People by Larry Carter http://goinswriter.com/the-best-way-to-network-serving-people/comment-page-1/#comment-24221 Larry Carter Wed, 16 May 2012 19:47:00 +0000 http://goinswriter.com/?p=509#comment-24221 I had trouble with this. The wayvI do it now is I try to find one thing I have in common. It may be easy or it may take a while, but I can usually do it. I had trouble with this. The wayvI do it now is I try to find one thing I have in common. It may be easy or it may take a while, but I can usually do it.

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