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5 Lessons from MLK on Living, Leading, & Communicating

MLK

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Martin Luther King, Jr. left us a legacy. He taught us as much through what he did as through what he said. Maybe more.

One of the many lessons Dr. King exemplified was the effectiveness of a life lived out loud — one in which a person’s words and dreams are backed by considerable action.

He showed us our lives must be lived intentionally and without regret, that words mean something and we must speak up in the face of injustice.

He taught us that it is one thing to say you have an idea and quite another to act on it. The man’s courage still inspires millions of people today.

I’m glad Dr. King spoke up — and then acted. The world is a better place because of it.

Here are several lessons we learn from this pioneer of civil rights (all quotes from Dr. King):

Speak with conviction

Cowardice asks the question, is it safe? Expediency ask the question, is it politic? Vanity asks the question, is it popular? But conscience ask the question, is it right? And there comes a time when we must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right.

Words ring hollow when you declare something with wavering, weak words.

When your message lacks conviction, we notice. It would be better for you to say nothing than to mutter a few wimpy phrases followed by parenthetical caveats and exceptions.

MLK never spoke like this. He understood that if you are going to change things, you will need to be bold. Your words, as well as your life, will have to reflect this.

In life, you may have to say something that is hard. You may be required to challenge the status quo or even hurt someone’s feelings — not intentionally, of course, but because not doing so would be a disservice to the truth.

So when that time comes, be absolutely sure of what you say before you say it. And then, say it. With boldness and conviction, as well as sensitivity and grace. But make no mistake: You must speak up. No pussyfooting about it.

Our stories are intertwined

All I’m saying is simply this, that all life is interrelated, that somehow we’re caught in an inescapable network of mutuality tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly.

We cannot attempt to live — or tell — a compelling story without being conscious of others. Everything we do is affected by and has an effect on other people. We are in this together.

Until we realize this, we are not living to our fullest potential. We are, instead, aimlessly and irresponsibly wandering like adolescents.

Until we start telling stories that unfold symbiotically, we are not telling truth. We are simply reciting fairy tales. We need more honest stories that call us into a deeper reality. This is where we all long to live, isn’t it? It all begins with compassion.

Telling the truth is dangerous

In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.

There is nothing safe about being honest, nothing comfortable about doing the right thing. If anything, when you are committed to saying what needs to be said, it will likely get you into trouble.

But the fruit of the message is often worth the pain.

You’re the one who has to decide this, though. Choose wisely before opening your mouth, and be aware of the consequences. Because as with MLK, this may cost you your life.

Of course, if you don’t speak, it could cost you something far greater.

Your goal should never be popularity

A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.

It is a dangerous thing to strive for the popular vote.

As a communicator and leader, you will be asked to compromise all kinds of values to please others. Sometimes, this is good; it teaches you flexibility and humility. But the practice of consensus-building can be very, very bad.

Steve Jobs showed us this: People don’t know what they want or need until you show it to them.

If you are offering a new paradigm, you cannot assume the masses will know or care what you’re talking about. You have to show your audience the Promised Land before they’ll want to go there themselves. And you can use this information to coerce people or help them — it’s up to you.

Whatever you do, beware the temptations of flattery. If all you’re doing is following the status quo, you’re neither leading nor communicating. And you’re hardly living. You’re entertaining.

The first person you need to convince is yourself

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

MLK often spoke about the importance of believing in yourself before trying to convince others to do so. He knew that if we doubt ourselves, so will others.

He also knew human beings cannot act according to their identity until they believe it about themselves. In the field of creative disciplines, we see this to be especially true: “A writer is a writer when he says he is,” says Steven Pressfield. There’s something about the power of declaration via our voices that forces our hands to act.

This may be the most important lesson Dr. King taught us: we are what we are when we decide to be it. May we honor his memory today by boldly being and believing who we are.

What lessons have you learned from the life and legacy of MLK? Share in the comments.

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  • http://lifebeforethebucket.blogspot.com Adrian Waller

    Here’s to believing more fully that I’m a writer this week. Thanks for these words!

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      amen

  • http://avajae.blogspot.com Ava Jae

    Beautiful post, Jeff. Thanks for reminding us not only about the things repeated every year on this day, but of the truths he shared that are not as often repeated. 

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      You’re welcome, Ava. Thanks for reading and sharing.

  • http://www.lisahallwilson.com/ Lisa Hall-Wilson

    I have often watched his speeches on youtube – his words still inspire, bring hope, and strengthen those weary with burdens of all sorts. Thanks for sharing.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      agreed, there was something about the way he communicated that was captivating.

  • http://www.everydaylanguagelearner.com Aaron G Myers

    “If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry.  He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”

    This is the quote that has always inspired me most.  The lesson is clear of course and a good reminder for my ego driven quests to please others and garner praise.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      well said

    • Shelli

      I love that quote too. Thanks for reminding me on this special day.

  • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

    Go. Do. Be. No Fear. 

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      yes.

  • http://twitter.com/dnwst Dan West

    Awesome. Here’s a couple more thoughts from MLK that inspired me today.
    http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2012/01/straight-up.html

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Loved those

  • http://blog.cyberquill.com Cyberquill

    Not sure how valuable a lesson this is, but the life of Dr King certainly taught me to avoid balconies. 

  • Anonymous

    Loved this Jeff. Thank you. 
    b

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      you’re welcome. :)

  • http://www.lifeofasteward.com/ Loren Pinilis

    It’s interesting also when we see this in context. Dr. King was telling people to believe in themselves because they had systems built up around them telling them that they were second-class.
    And I think about what systems are built up around me – whether it’s requirements for fancy degrees or making a certain amount of income. Or being popular. Or being attractive.
    And how many systems I’ve built up around myself with my own hands. Like what I have to do to be worthwhile. Like what I have to tackle to mean something in this world.

  • http://talesofwork.com kimanzi constable

    From him I’ve learned not to settle, especially for what society thinks things should be like. in terms of writing, people don’t think that you’re an author unless you get published traditionally, I tell that the money is the same. It’s also nice to be able to build your own platform and help people!

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  • Anonymous

    Great thoughts, Jeff. Love this! Listened to a sermon yesterday that taught the importance of speaking boldly. Thanks for the confirmation.

  • Anonymous

    Loved this post and the video! Thanks for posting! Keep up the great work!

  • http://www.writinginflow.blogspot.com Beverly Diehl

    Great post!  (Not to plug my own stuff, but to plug my own stuff, I’m having a blogfest on MLK today, you’re welcome to stop by and share this link.)

  • Cheryll Holley

    Excellent post. Thank you so much.

  • http://writeitsideways.com/ Suzannah Windsor Freeman

    Being a Canadian living in Australia, I can’t say I know a lot about Martin Luther King. But, this statement hit home for me: “There is nothing safe about being honest, nothing comfortable about doing the right thing.” Very true, and very thought-provoking. 

  • http://yourhowtoblogguide.com/ Spatch Merlin

    Inspiring words. I particularly liked what you said about ‘the goals.’ It is important to steer clear from goals of being famous. Being popular is not wrong however, making it as you main goal in implementing something makes everything faulty. 

  • http://jeremystatton.com/ Jeremy Statton

    Thanks for sharing the video and incorporating the word “pussyfooting” into the article. You should be proud of both.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      :-)

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  • Anonymous

    Yesterday a grandpa with inoperable cancer told me to, “Live every day as if you are on holidays “. Why do we wait for a cataclysmic event to recognise that every day can bring delight? Would MLK have been as inspiring if he had not been born into a minority group? Would he have been more insightful or more powerful?

    Would I be a better poster if the keys on my iPhone were bigger? Definitely easier to write on a bigger screen. My fingers will never get smaller however much I diet!!!!

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  • Joey Patrick

    MLK’s legacy taught me the difference between goals and dreams. Dreams are things we want to happen, the thoughts that run through our mind as to how life would be if we completed some task. Goals are results of actions we take to make our dreams come true.

  • Sweetlolasmom

    I can’t say I’ve learned this thing I will share, but I certainly admire and respect it. Dr. King was bold in his declaration of Christ and pointed to the bible in his most powerful speeches. While I can not say for sure, I expect that he not only understood the concept and reality of spiritual warfare, but I believe that it was because he understood it that his earthly presence reflected the love of God for His people in such a powerful and meaningful way. I speak not only of black people, but he championed for all those who were heavy laden, whether they accepted him or not. There was once controversy about his private life and people tried to discredit his message, but what those folks didn’t know, and sadly some today don’t know, is that God can use and will use anyone willing to boldly declare Christ to the world. However long, however short. What a beautiful man he was. I often wonder what the world would be like today had he lived longer.

  • Morgyn

    Living through the last election, barely able to credit the in your face, I don’t care about anyone but me attitudes – – the true “entitlement” gang, and then the relief of the reelection, I am reminded of K . D Lang’s comment during a concert the day after Obama was elected the first time:  How did it feel to wake up in America again?  And she was born in Canada, where I was considering moving if the Goose Steppers had taken over the White House.  After reading Jeff’s post this AM, I was moved to comment, while amidst my friends and those I work with, this would have come close to getting myself stoned in the ancient sense.   All of them screaming bloody murder about their money and their “rights” rather than righting any wrongs.  I don’t know whether there was any truth to the smear attempts on MKL, but it really doesn’t matter as he eclipsed the darkness with his actions.  That he was eloquent as well gave him the power to reach us today.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Katherine-Harms/602268732 Katherine Harms

    I always found common ground with Dr. King in his objective — a colorblind world. I was seriously at odds with some of his methods. I was most completely at odds with people he allowed to influence him in his later years to pull away from his Christlike beginnings.
    However, every hero is still a human being. Despite his disappointing mistakes, many of his accomplishments deserve our praise and admiration. You have pointed out five traits that made him strong, five traits worth emulating. His willingness to do the unpopular thing precisely because the truth demanded it is one of his most admirable qualities. I know that seeking, speaking and trying always to act on the truth are things that put me at odds with a lot of people. I admire people who speak the truth, and I try to remember that they, like me, will have their days when the truth is not in them. I try very hard to stand strong through my own dark days, and I pray that when I have failed my readers, they will forgive me and give me another chance to serve them.

  • Mary Ellen Wright

     

    How often I’ve fractured a heart or smashed self-worth in
    another by the words spewing from my mouth with poison and bold
    conviction.  This article finds a target
    in my heart. 

    When I read, “…be absolutely sure of what you say
    before you say it. And then, say it. With boldness and conviction, as well as
    sensitivity and grace,” immediately these scriptures came to mind:

    Proverbs 4:23 “Keep your heart with all diligence, For out
    of it spring the issues of life.”

    Matthew 12:34-35 “For
    out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good
    treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil
    treasure brings forth evil things.”

    James 3:8-12 “But
    no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With
    it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in
    the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My
    brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water
    and bitter from the same opening?” NKJV

    Words can wound and they can heal. 

    They can inspire to greatness or plunge into despair.

    And, “Whatever affects
    one directly affects all indirectly…We cannot attempt to live —
    or tell — a compelling story without being conscious of others. Everything we
    do is affected by and has an effect on
    other people. We are in this together.”

    Martin
    Luther King,
    Jesus, Hitler
    and others changed our world with their words. 
    May I be found boldly speaking and writing words of truth salted with charity,
    realizing that with the same measure I judge another, it will be measured back
    to me.  The world would be a better place
    if we all weighed our words on heaven’s scales.

  • JanetHertogh

    Jeff, this post was amazing for me to read. It moved me- your words moved me and so did those of MLK. In 5th grade I memorized his “I Have a Dream” speech and won an award for it. Have never seen the one on the video- WOW!
     Thank you so much for this post!

  • http://twitter.com/DanielleNGomes Danielle Gomes

    Dr. MLK’s words were so powerful and moving because he didn’t just speak them – he believed them and he acted on them. He showed the world how to be better, he didn’t just tell the world how to change. He was a true hero! Thank you for this post!

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    Thanks for sharing… Powerful words 
    Precious Word Publications

  • Laura Hile

    Thanks so much for this article, Jeff. I will share it with my high school fiction writing classes.

    Ha, the advanced class is all guys, isn’t that something? We have way too much fun in there.

  • Pablo Ellsworth

    Jeff, how do we fight the popularity factor? I agree with what you said. But It is hard to find the balance when popularity is tied to things like readers on a blog, influence, money, etc. how do you find the balance?

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      By realizing that no amount will satisfy.

      • Pablo Ellsworth

        Very good. Thanks.

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