Today, someone told me a story about a coworker (and friend) who wanted her to lie to the boss. She refused. She just couldn’t lie like that.
The friend lost her job, and she lost her friend.
Every day, we have the choice to tell the truth — or not. We can be honest with ourselves about who we are and the challenge we face, or we can deceive ourselves.
Be honest about the problem
The other day at a conference, I heard speaker and author Seth Godin give this advice to an auditorium of leaders:
Tell the truth.
The question was: “How do I innovate within a bureaucracy?”
Godin’s summation was simple: Your situation isn’t as bad as you think. You may not have the freedom to do whatever you want, but you can do something. So start there.
How this applies to what you’re facing right now
Let’s say you’re facing an important decision or dealing with a certain problem, and you don’t know what to do. Where do you begin?
Stop lying. Honestly identify what’s really standing in your way:
- Is it your boss… or your fear?
- Is it laziness… or Resistance?
- Is it them… or is it you?
Just tell the truth. Isn’t that usually the right answer? The question may be, “How do I get a husband?” or “How do I find the right job?” Or even, “How do I market this product?” No matter what, the answer is always honesty.
Integrity, although sometimes temporarily costly, ultimately wins.
This applies to writing, too
The problem is not always so simple. Neither is the solution. When you write, tell it like it is. We are all waiting for the truth — and so few writers are telling it.
Write honestly and from the heart, your heart. No one else can do that.
Above all else, your must be true to the message you have to share. Don’t fluff or exaggerate the details to impress others. Be honest. Be yourself. Write like only you can. Because if you don’t tell your story, who else will?
Tell the truth. It’s the only thing worth listening to.
How have you seen the benefit of telling the truth in your own life? Share in the comments.