Don't waste your time with resolutions this new year. Instead, focus on something far better: resolve. While the words are similar, the difference is significant.
A resolution is something you make; resolve is something you have. Call it semantics, but I think the distinction is important.
This year, a lot of people will make resolutions and then immediately break them. Why? Because they're not really resolving to do anything different. They're just wishing.
Here's the bottom line: Without a stronger resolve, you have no hope of accomplishing your resolutions.
In other words, you need to commit. To choose into an intentional process that will make you better. Not a set of audacious goals you'll never meet.
Goal-setting, while admirable, is essentially pointless. Goals, in and of themselves, aren't sustainable. They tell you where you want to go, not how you're going to get there.
What you need are new habits, a new way of living that will bring different results.
It's time to commit to being the type of person you've always dreamed of being. And that begins with creating new disciplines. Here are three important ones worth mastering, if you want to be better this year (at writing, making art, or anything else):
- Set aside a time to practice. Be it early morning, during lunch, or late at night, it's important to have a special time to spend with your craft. Although I at first hated it, I've now grown quite fond of my 5:00 am writing times. There's something peaceful about the solitude of working while the rest of the world is asleep.
- Show up. When I say I'm going to write, I often procrastinate and run out of time. I give excuses and justifications and end up creating nothing. I hate this. So I have refused to allow myself an “out” any longer. I must write every day, no matter what, even if for only 15 minutes. The crazy thing is this is where some of my best work comes from — concentrated blocks of forced productivity.
- Give yourself grace. This goes hand-in-hand with the last one. A natural byproduct of discipline is dread. When you start showing up to do the work, you may grow fearful of the desk. I know I have struggled with this, feeling like my work is never good enough. At times like these, remember to be playful; have fun. Remind yourself why you go through the painful parts, because there is joy waiting for you at the finish line.
Sure, there are other strategies for setting and achieving your goals this year, but those three are enough to get you started.
Most days, if you can remember to set aside time to practice, to actually show up and do the work, and to give yourself grace when you fall short, you are going to be just fine.
What about you? What habits are you trying to work on this new year? Share in the comments.