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For years, I struggled with calling myself a writer.
I wrote and wrote and wrote. Yet, I was waiting. For what? To become a writer.
I doubted myself and told others I was an aspiring writer. I secretly hoped that one day I would get someone’s permission to call myself what I knew, deep down inside, I already was.
Do you struggle with this? Does it plague you, as it does most writers?
Here’s the secret “real writers” know
There is one and only one way to become a writer. It’s hard. It may take years of practice and pain. But once you do it, it will make all the difference.
Do you want to know what it is? What finally makes you a writer?
Here it is — the only way to become a writer:
SAY YOU’RE ONE.
When I interviewed Steven Pressfield, I asked him that question: “When does a writer become a writer?”
He said, in the most eloquent way possible, what I dreaded to hear:
You are a writer when you tell yourself you are. No one else’s opinion matters. Screw them. You are when you say you are.
It took me a long time to do this
This is true, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Even after publishing articles and blog posts for years and finally getting a book deal, I still sometimes struggle to feel like a real writer.
After all, don’t real writers spend all day writing in restaurants and stay disciplined at all costs?
Don’t they stick to their ideals and not care about fans, but still manage to sell a million books?
Don’t they smoke cigarettes and live in New York City and effortlessly create masterpieces overnight?
No, they do not.
For we those of us who aspire to be pros, we often relegate the title of “real writer” to somewhere unattainable, to some sphere of life we will never reach. And this is just foolish, not to mention unfair.
My wake-up call came when I was part of a personal coaching program last year. All eleven of us in the group were standing around, sharing our dreams. And I said, “I guess my dream is to be a writer.”
Someone who had read my blog stared me in the eyes and said resolutely,
You don’t have to dream of being a writer. You are a writer. You just need to start writing.
That changed everything for me. Ever since then, despite my doubts, I have called myself a writer.
So start calling yourself a writer today
You may not want to. Every critical bone in your body may refuse and rebel against this.
But you need to it anyway. You need to call yourself a writer. Not aspiring. Not some day.
This is a discipline, and one you need to master.
Because only when you start believing what is already true about yourself will you be able to live it.
Of course, like so many things we talk about on this blog, this is not just true of writing, but of any vocation.
And if this describes how you’re talking about your life’s work, it’s time for a change. Time to start calling yourself what you already are.
What’s something you’re struggling to call yourself, but know is true about you? Share in the comments.
*Photo credit: Mark Gayn (Creative Commons)
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