Get More Followers By Breaking the Rules

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. If we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

You’ve launched a blog or finally gotten on Twitter. You’re trying to figure out this whole Internet thing. And now, you’re wondering: How do I get more followers?

The truth is, you already know the answer. But you won’t admit it. Because it has to do with breaking the rules. And this scares you. (Which it should.)

Graffiti: Get more followers by breaking the rules

Photo credit: Adrian Boliston (Creative Commons)

Everybody wants more followers

From social media enthusiasts to politicians to preachers, leaders are looking for more influence.

Maybe you’ve been blogging for years or you’re just getting started, and you’re thinking: “Can I grow this thing? Can I really increase my platform?”

The answer, without trying to sound like an infomercial or Barack Obama’s speech writer, is “Yes, you can!” And you can do it for free. But you probably won’t.

I hate saying that. Because I hope that you’ll do what it takes to grow your audience. Not for the sake of the followers or an inflated ego, but for the sake of doing it. Because it will liberate you from the doldrum of creating mediocre content.

Most of you won’t do it, though. Here’s why:

You have to say something dangerous

That’s how you get more followers. Whether in a blog or a speech or a conversation, just make a statement.

Don’t just say anything. Say something.

Do something like this or this or even this (warning: some links include profanity), and see your followers skyrocket.

Break a rule and see who follows

In other words, be Tyler DurdenTake a risk. Buck the system.

Compare it to the usual reactions to your anesthetized, everyday drivel. I guarantee there will be a difference.

Do yourself a favor and answer the following questions honestly:

  • Are you really saying what you want to say, what makes you come alive?
  • Or are you saying what you think won’t get you into trouble?

If it’s the second one, run. It’s time to get out. Now.

It’s easy to be boring

Boring is safe. Boring is popular (to other boring people, at least). Boring doesn’t get you fired.

Boring is what scared people choose — nearly every time they’re given a choice. Boring is, quite frankly, the coward’s way.

Boring doesn’t make you come alive. It doesn’t give you purpose (although, it may provide a paycheck). And it doesn’t change the world.

So knock it off, already.

Stop choosing the middle of the road

There are way too many lame messages out there. Way too much crap for you to play it safe. We need you to be dangerous.

Pick a side. Stand for something. Some will love you for it, and others will try to stone you.

But.
Please.
Say.
Something.

You can be remarkable, or you can be mediocre. There is nothing else. (You might want to tweet that.)

You can tickle ears, or upset the status quo. You can infuriate, or earn passive dismissals. One will make you average; the other will make you a hero.

But you have to choose.

Who’s following you… really?

Look around and see who’s following you. Are they, really?

Take a quick mental inventory of how you felt the last time you said something dangerous. Did you feel alive? Were people engaged in what you were saying?

Maybe it’s time you broke a rule. Maybe it’s time you picked a side, said something dangerous.

I’m not saying be contentious, but stop being afraid. And start changing something. You have a voice; use it.

What about you? When was the last time you broke a rule? Share in the comments.

*Photo credit: Adrian Boliston (Creative Commons)

About the Author

Jeff Goins

Writer, idea guy, difference-maker. I help people tell better stories and make a difference in the world. My family and I reside just outside of Nashville, TN. Follow me on Twitter, Facebook, or Google Plus.

  • http://simplejesusgirl.wordpress.com Lori

    Really enjoying reading your posts. Thanks for short & sweet, relevant, doable content. Be Blessed!

    • http://goinswriter.com Jeff Goins

      Thanks, Lori!

  • Jen

    Going to do it. Not sure how. But going to find something interesting and alive to say.

    • http://about.me/jeffgoins Jeff Goins

      Way to go Jen! Let us know what happens.

      • Michaele

        The link to shut up and get to work appears to be broken?

  • http://www.nomadicneill.com NomadicNeill

    Totally agree. It’s all about expressing yourself authentically and not censoring yourself.

    Some people will love you, some will hate you. Accept it and do your thing.

    • http://about.me/jeffgoins Jeff Goins

      Thanks for the comment and for reading!

  • http://aka-mommy.blogspot.com Amber Anderson

    So? I guess the question we need to ask ourself is: Do we want a platform? And why? And going into it- shouldn’t we be aware of the ins and outs and highs and lows?
    A LOT of bloggers/writers/authors get “stoned” for being real and honest- and just as many get praised for doing the same. I believe folks need to know just how thick their skin needs to be before they get too bold.

    • http://about.me/jeffgoins Jeff Goins

      Good call, Amber. You need to consider the cost of being bold, for sure. I would argue, though, that the opportunity cost of not saying what’s really in your heart is greater than any negative reaction you might get to your boldness. But you’re right, you need to consider the consequence ahead of time.

    • Lisa R

      Amber, I just read a blog post by author Rachel Aaron about the undisputed fact that there are bullies on the Internet. Of course, I already knew that. :) But, she had a fresh take. I think you’re right about needing to have a thick skin.

    • http://twitter.com/ChapinChick Elizabeth Chapin

      I agree. Thick skin is essential to risky blogging.

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  • http://bibledude.net/ @bibledude

    Nice Jeff! LOVE it! You’ve challenged me the same way that I like to challenge others… #fistbump

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      thanks, dan!

  • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

    Yeah, I did that once. I got fired from my job.

    I got a lot of blog comments though!

    It’s quite a story.

    • http://about.me/jeffgoins Jeff Goins

      do tell!

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Would love to hear it!

    • http://jonfulk.com/ Jon Fulk

      You got fired because of your blog?  I want to hear that story too!

      • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

        I just wrote up a brief version of it for Jeff’s “Wrecked” book website. I am hoping he publishes it. I will try to share more in a book I am editing that is coming out later this year called “Finding Church.” 

  • http://shewritesandrights.blogspot.com Bethany Suckrow

    I struggle with this, too, but ironically, I don’t usual regret breaking “a rule” whatever it is, so I’m not sure why I’m afraid of it. I know that I tend to be too conscientious of what people close to me will think – my fundamentalist uncle, my grandmother, someone from my church or my work. On the one hand, I have made it clear that this is my own project that I pursue on my own time, and I try not to bring up certain things when I’m around them. Ex: I try not to discuss art with any of them, because it tends to lead into conversations about censorship, “liberal” philosophies, or why I shouldn’t listen to public radio. But if I write things in truth and passion, and I let it be there on my blog, in my own space, I’m usually at peace with the results and the feedback from other people who “get it.” Do you ever face this kind of confrontation from people close to you? Has it ever affected your own writing?

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      absolutely. those closest to us hurt us the most.

    • http://www.tammygrrrl.com/ Tammy Perlmutter

      I’ve struggled with the same questions and fears. I’ve had a little contention on my blog, especially when I write about church and community. One of my best friends objected so strongly to one of my posts that it contributed to our eventual fall out. But I stand by what I wrote. I get nervous about my mother-in-law reading my blog. We have a special needs daughter and I would like to write more openly about our experiences, but I hold back because of her panicking. I don’t know what to do.

  • http://popparables.com Keri

    I completely understand this idea, but I’m not sure if that’s what I’m going for in my blog.  I want people to be able to express both sides of the story.  And, I feel that if I choose one side, I’ll alienate those who feel the opposite or just cause a lot of debate.  I want my blog to be a place where peole can openly, honestly, and respectfully share their thoughts.  I guess I need to find a way to encourage that kind of interaction while still stating how I feel.  

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Hmmm… Not to be contrarian, but I don’t believe you, Keri. There are certain truths by which you stand — even if it’s the value of the story — and I think you need to express them without apology. (You can do this in a conversational way, btw.) Moreover, we need to hear them.

      • http://popparables.com Keri

        Reading your words has made me consider that perhaps I have stood my ground more than I haven’t.  Obviously, I share truth from the Bible, so I’m standing on that.  The skill of respectfully stating your opinion and standing by it is something I’m working on.  And, bloggins has really helped with that actually.  Thanks for your thoughtful response, Jeff.

  • http://www.edwardpaz.com Edward Paz

    “You can be remarkable, or you can be mediocre. There is nothing else.”

    I love that Jeff! This is one of my favorite posts of yours!

    It challenges me to never shrink back from what I’m feeling led to say!

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Thank you, my friend. Truth be told, your writing inspires me to think more like this.

  • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

    This post is going to get me into trouble :) :)  

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      that was the intent, Shy. :)

  • A K Whittemore

    I wrote a blog today that was [really] dangerous for me. As a missionary, coming from a VERY conservative background, I finally confessed I have a real tattoo. That’s a great way to stir the pot where I come from :)

    Read it here if interested. http://richardandashleyw.blogspot.com/2011/07/confessions-of-missionary-part-dos-i.html

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      interesting!

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  • http://twitter.com/lornafaith Lorna Faith

    I know I need to say things straight out and not worry about getting “stoned.” I’m going to start being bolder on my blog!  Thanks Jeff :)

  • http://sayable.net/ Lore Ferguson

    Great post. I confess, fear is my greatest enemy. All the “write through the resistance” and “write your fears” don’t alleviate the fear. I had a conversation with a fellow writer last night about this subject exactly. It’s scary. Necessary, not just for the sake of gaining followers, but for the sake of truth itself, but scary nonetheless. Thanks for sharing. 

  • Lisa R

    First, I have to say I loved the quote, Jeff, and I retweeted it. When I started my blog before your challenge began, I started it with the intent of being real in my topics, and I’ve shared things I’ve never shared with anyone except my husband. I guess what I’m running into now is keeping the topics fresh while still being real.  I know I want to write about my experiences and writing, but not sure how to expand it. Thinking about finding a writing prompt site to give me some ideas. http://writewhatyouknowdotorg.wordpress.com/

  • http://thomasmarkzuniga.com TMZ

    Super inspiring. Been in prayer lately about taking my blog and essentially my life to a whole different plateau. But it will involve getting really messy. Still, I can’t shake the desire to set myself free and hopefully impact a life or two along the way too.

    Your post has me more fired up than ever though.

  • Sherrypalmer1954

    Question: Jeff, what was it that you said when you broke the rules?

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      “Writers don’t write to get published.”

  • Jeff K. Clarke

    Excellent, Jeff, and very true.

    I posted an article Wednesday morning about church design, empty spaces and the loss of symbol. It garnered a bit of attention, both good and bad, but by the end of the day, over 800 visits, which is the highest I’ve seen to date for one post on one day.

    So, yes, I agree with your assessment completely. Say what you feel needs to be said. Not to intentionally infuriate someone, but because you believe it can help people to ask questions, stimulating conversation and inspire faith along the way.

    You are right!

    Keep it up, Jeff. Many thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/Millmissionary Mark E. Randall

    Jeff – I just posted a similar thought on today’s post “Is that golf tee legal?” at my blog http://www.MillionaireMissionary.com 
    Also, I’m excited about reviewing your new book, ‘Wrecked’ – it looks awesome!
    God Bless,
    Mark

  • Agatha Nolen

    Jeff,
    great post on how fear holds us back. I think there is a delicate balance between being honest when it might be controversial and intentionally being “edgy” to attract a controversy. I have to ask myself if I am sharing an opinion or personal information because it has a point or because I know that it will polarize people and generate traffic. You touched on it when you said we shouldn’t be intentionally contentious; I think we all should examine our motives each time we post. If they aren’t pure and what we really believe, we should look for another topic. We’ve got enough bloggers and news sources that are only looking for the sound byte to get attention and not really add value to the discourse of the world.
    thanks again for your wisdom,
    Agatha
    http://www.agathanolen.com

  • http://jonfulk.com/ Jon Fulk

    This is both easy and incredibly difficult when you live in two (seemingly) opposing worlds.  I have one foot in church ministry and another foot in higher education.  There is a strong temptation to try and please everyone, yet if I take any side at all, I am guaranteed to offend someone.

  • http://culturalsavage.com/ Aaron Smith (CulturalSavage)

    “I’m a loner Dotty. A rebel.”

    I have to remind my self that breaking rules ad shaking off expectations is about more than just saying something to shock. It’s about being honest in a raw sort of way. It’s about talking to the internet the way I talk to my friends over coffee. It’s about saying the truth, even when it offends some people. It’s about writing hard.

    Thanks for the push today Jeff. My blog and I need these reminders sometimes, other wise how am I going to be brave so my readers can be brave as well?

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Love the Getup Kids song of the same title.

  • JamesPrescott77

    Great post. Just what I needed to hear. Thanks for saying this and challenging me again.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      My pleasure, James.

  • Mark

    Thanks Jeff, this has really confirmed what I thought. I don’t think we have to set out to shock but if we have a real opinion we are going to upset someone. I have decided to be unashamed about what I say and not soften it for those who may not agree.

    PS Hwere did you get the seriously cool Twitter link?

    Thanks friend :-)

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Right. What link?

      • Kenyatta Greer

        I think he means the “Tweet This” link.

  • http://twitter.com/lifefordessert Logan Wolfram

    I love this!  And from personal experience, the most hits I’ve ever gotten was from a post I wrote when I was just completely raw and unedited.  It wasn’t pretty, but it was real and vulnerable, and gave people permission to  be angry when the world just doesn’t pan out right.  I couldn’t write that post again if I tried, and despite the raw hardness of the subject matter, it might be one of my favorite things I’ve ever written.  I don’t know that it grew my audience but for a couple of weeks or so, but I do know that somehow that raw reality made some people out there feel like they could breathe again within the confines of their own pain somehow.  And while it certainly wasn’t intentional, the fact that it mattered in the world to some people, makes my bared pain worth every last bit.

    Thanks so much for sharing.  Love love love this truth!

    • http://www.tammygrrrl.com/ Tammy Perlmutter

      I’d like to read that post!

  • AnnaKaris

    Couldn’t you conceivable lose more followers that you gain by this method?

    http://spiritofseattle.blogspot.com

    • http://culturalsavage.com/ Aaron Smith (CulturalSavage)

      Yes, and if it’s only about raw numbers that might look like a bad thing.
      Breaking the rules that keep you caged in will attract the right kind of people to your voice, people that need those rules broken or break them them selves. Not everyone really resonates with your platform. That’s okay. Build a better tribe.

  • http://blog.travishinkle.com/ Travis Hinkle

    Great post. I know I would rather read something that has passion and honesty than just another 5 steps to this or 10 ways to do that. I just have to make sure I don’t fall into the rut of being safe. Thanks again, Jeff!

  • http://unknownjim.com/ Jim Woods

    Jeff, I don’t disagree, but I see how this could EASILY be misinterpreted as to go intentionally offend others in hopes of building an audience. That is precisely what you don’t mean, right? 

    My interpretation of this-Don’t intentionally offend others. Just do your own thing and don’t apologize for it. The truth is you should have been doing this all along. This also relates to the concept that once you have “haters” then you are standing for something of value.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Right.

    • http://www.patwashington.blogspot.com Pat Washington

      Here’s something I struggle with: I take more risks with my writing on Facebook than I do on my blog, because I can control (somewhat) who sees what on Facebook, whereas my blog was started as a way to have fresh writing to show possible employers. 

      So… my blog is still somewhat “safe.”  But on Facebook, that’s another matter.  I recently had a relative unfriend me because she didn’t like my comment on an NPR article about gay men having people created for them.  I said that I thought it was selfish to purposely create another person knowing beforehand that this person would not have the opportunity to know and be loved by BOTH  a mother and a father.  And I thought that this needed to be said.

  • http://twitter.com/ChapinChick Elizabeth Chapin

    I think one of my riskiest blog posts barely scratched the surface of some of my scandalous thoughts. Thanks for the encouragement and stay tuned for some rowdy rule breaking! The last time I felt like a rule breaker was when I hired a prostitute, but we didn’t have sex: http://chickchaotic.wordpress.com/2012/06/11/i-hired-a-prostitute-but-we-didnt-have-sex/

    • http://www.fcb4.tumblr.com Eric Blauer

      Great post, the Amos quote was powerful!

  • michael platania

    This is all about finding your voice, because if what you say isn’t authentically you (or me), than you (or I) come across as pretentious or an ass.  I wrote blog posts this week, and it wasn’t until the fifth one that I started to come close to feel I was finding my voice.  I get what you are saying.  I want followers – but I also want to feel I have something worth following – and I am not there yet, but I am a hell of a lot closer than I was five days ago, and I feel great about that! 

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Great point.

  • http://talesofwork.com/ kimanzi constable

    I really appreciate this post and what it teaches us to do. Too often I worry that I’ll say something that will offend my readers and I’ll lose them, I just have to write what’s on my heart.

  • http://listmarketingadventure.com/ Bill (LoneWolf) Nickerson

    I know that it is hard to step out of the box. I constantly find myself editing out words and phrases like “probably”, “most likely”, “in my opinion”, etc. In the struggle to not offend I water things down.

    One post where I went out on a limb last week was “Will You Enlist in My Army?” http://timemanagement.toxichabits.com/enlist-in-my-army/

    It is a call for people to help me (provided that they like the stuff I write) by promoting me. I suck at marketing and I am always afraid to ask people to do things for me. This was a bold step outside the box for me.

    I imagine that some people will be offended by this type of request. They want to enjoy what is produced and then move on. Asking them to help spread it around, well, isn’t that my job?

    I know that most of the people who are on my email list ignored the post. But a few responded and hopefully more will as time goes on. Those are the people I write for anyway!

  • http://therightvolume.com/ Samantha Livingston

    YES! Love this. Did it last week when I included a cuss word in my Christian blog. Why? Because I feel like cussing sometimes.
    http://therightvolume.com/husbands-not-enough/

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=725133780 Dana Bennett

    Dangerous. Shit. I quit doing that in my 30s. And now it’s 30 years later. That’s too damn long. Writing is a real bitch and it feels like all I’m left with. I’m sick, I’m poor, I’m tired, I don’t believe in God and in fact spent most of my life really pissed off at him. Or her. Gender doesn’t matter. God is a lie and it was designed to comfort people. Good for them.

    • http://www.majorinthegraceofgod.blogspot.com/ dale carroll-coleman

       Dana, appreciate your comments and love your honesty. I am not really sure how to respond but I want to.  Are you pissed at God or still unsure if he/she exists? Is there a way to move on from the pissed part, if you find He does exist?
      Want to talk about it?

    • http://www.patwashington.blogspot.com Pat Washington

      I read this, and my only thought was “Why is this person spending so much time being angry at someone she doesn’t believe in?”

      • http://www.majorinthegraceofgod.blogspot.com/ dale carroll coleman

         That’s the way it goes sometimes. It may not make sense to us, but I believe when someone takes the time to write, they are reaching out. Why not reach back? There is pain and hurt and lots of times it gets directed at God, whether people even know if they believe in Him or not.
        Remember , we don’t always believe what we write or speak. God is tugging at all of us. Maybe she is feeling it, but doesn’t understand it or like it.

        • http://www.patwashington.blogspot.com Pat Washington

           Yes. Why not reach back?

          • http://www.majorinthegraceofgod.blogspot.com/ dale carroll coleman

             I totally get ya Pat.

  • http://www.houseofhispresence.net/ Kelvin

    Loved this post.  Not everyone is going to like, agree  or applaud your point of view. As a Pastor, I have to remember that people either loved Jesus or they hated Him…there really was no in-between.

  • Mirandabali

    Thank you for this post… AHA moment for me, i’ve been going safe like… FOREVER! this stops me from starting, really starting EVER… because i wanted to look good, sound good, be good… IOW: boring, staid, mediocre, SAFE… More later..

  • Mirandabali

    Thank you for this post… AHA moment for me, i’ve been going safe like… FOREVER! this stops me from starting, really starting EVER… because i wanted to look good, sound good, be good… IOW: boring, staid, mediocre, SAFE… More later..

  • Lrose Lilly

    Great advice!  I often find myself saying things that are considered “safe” or “normal”.  I will definitely consider saying more of what I feel, or in other words saying something dangerous.

  • Lrose Lilly

    Great advice!  I often find myself saying things that are considered “safe” or “normal”.  I will definitely consider saying more of what I feel, or in other words saying something dangerous.

  • http://www.thenobullpastor.com/ Bob Sands

    So then I should probably restart my blog…www.thenobullpastor.com.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      love that URL

  • http://www.thenobullpastor.com/ Bob Sands

    So then I should probably restart my blog…www.thenobullpastor.com.

  • http://bethmorey.blogspot.com/ Beth

    Oh yes.  Love this.  Thank you, Jeff.  Passing this on…

  • http://www.distillingwords.com/ Chris Lovie-Tyler

    Thanks for writing this post, Jeff. It’s a subject dear to my heart at the moment.

    More and more, I’m breaking rules. Not just for the sake of it, but because I have to: to be me, to create art (rather than paint-by-numbers product), to obey the call of truth – and because I can’t stand the status quo (although I give in to it many times).

    Whether that gets me followers remains to be seen, but if it does, it will be for the right reasons.

  • http://ruthannereid.com/ Ruthanne Reid

    I just did today! Made a blog post I’d been afraid to make.

  • Aidan

    Hey Jeff,
    Where’s your Tyler Durden content, your risky moment, your bold, pot stirring statement? Is this a bold question? Show me yours and I’ll show you mine.
    Aidan
    ps this really is as harsh as i can be

  • Nick Sagit

    The truth is that I admire those who stay on their own and break the rules. I would like to be more like the one I would follow. But I do love the temperance as well: be who you are, but do not offend and hurt the others. And that is very difficult -  a battle between ego and super-ego.
    I write here and probably none would notice, none would react, but it is just easier for me to say it and you can do with it what you want.
    Best regards to all of you – just be yourselves :)

    • http://www.entrepreneursdiscuss.com/ Kelvin Wealth

      Hi Nick… I noticed you here that means many more people will also notice you…

  • YoMister

    I’m a teacher, and a teacher’s gotta fart. So I wrote about it: 
    http://yomister.com/2012/06/13/020-the-art-and-science-of-passing/
    Excuse me.

  • http://www.majorinthegraceofgod.blogspot.com/ dale carroll coleman

    thanks Jeff. I am so not the typical( of my age) church going lady. My mouth gets me in of trouble and my language is somewhat uncivilized from time to time. I hate boring blogs and yet sometimes… that is what mine is.
    I hate to admit that i don’t want to lose the few stalwart followers I have because of offending them, and yet…. The reason I have a blog is to share whats in my heart, encourage and motivate. The motivate part is what I really like and I find most people need some motivation! Like a kick in the arse! So, I will try and not listen to the whispers in my head as I write.. and write truth, without purposely hurting. That is still important.

  • http://www.entrepreneursdiscuss.com/ Kelvin Wealth

    Oh Jeff! I love this post… I stopped following the rules just recently and I must say I’m beginning to enjoy blogging the more… 

    I first broke the rule when I had to get my first guest post approved in a top blog… I got over 100 comments on the guest post and I decided that I was going to keep breaking the rules more often…

    I believe everyone one has a unique voice and a style of writing so we should stop writing like someone else…

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      wow! way to go, Kelvin!

  • http://www.abidingingrace.com/ A. Gonzales

    I’m going to be honest.  I looked at all those links and if that’s what dangerous is…that’s not me.  I almost feel like I need to completely stop being me and be someone else who naturally has those personalities.  Now I’m a blunt person and I say what’s on my mind but I’m not into just looking to offend people or doing out of character things just to get an audience!lol  I’m sure that’s not what you’re saying but looking at those links…uh yeah, nice for them but that ain’t me!  I’m into saying what needs to be said, when it needs to be said but not into talking about my bodily functions (or malfunctions)  and how awful of a person I’m proud to be.   This is dangerous for me: http://www.abidingingrace.com/money/pyramid-schemes-and-discernment/ and sharing things I would otherwise NEVER share:  http://www.abidingingrace.com/uncategorized/dying-daily-anger/  

  • Amy Croall

    Thank you very much, Jeff!

    I’m a breakout author recently published through an Indie publisher. My first novel (a historical romance) is not selling a ton, and I figured creating a blog and getting some followers would really help that. 

    Only problem is, my blog isn’t getting attention, either. But you’ve helped! Before, I was writing about my struggle to get published (which is still a bit of a struggle), but recently, I’ve decided to have some of my characters “hijack” my blog. I’m having loads of fun with it, I just need more readers!

    Amy Croall
    Author of “A Cure for the Condition”
    Impossible Love with Real Characters
    http://www.amycroall.blogspot.com

  • Lauren

    I concur. There are plenty of people out there offering pablum in the horse biz. If you want pablum – go there. I’m not trying to offend anyone, just straight comments and concepts. Why people take offense is their own deal and I cannot help them find their way to Exceptional Horsemanship if they won’t confront their ego.

  • http://kristykjames.wordpress.com/ Kristy K. James

    Thank you. I tend to be rebellious and opinionated, and it has been driving me nuts to try and follow all the rules for the past year. Most ‘experts’ want you to hit that middle of the road target. Write well, blog about topics you know…just make sure you don’t offend anyone. Can’t wait to have some fun breaking rules.  :)

  • http://twitter.com/elramey debra elramey

    This is the nudge I needed Jeff.  You’re a godsend.  Not being “of the world” it’s hard to try to fit your round self into that square hole.  And so I stopped long ago. But being shy of people and fearful of being stoned, I’ve hidden.  I don’t like the limelight because that’s where the rotten tomatoes fly into your face. 

  • http://www.patwashington.blogspot.com Pat Washington

    Isn’t it great that we have rules to break?  ;-)

    A family member of mine told me recently, “I think you like to shock people.”  At first I was a bit offended. “No! That’s not true… I’m a nice person.”  But now, actually, I see that as a sort of compliment.  I am a writer.  I think about stuff, and then I write about it.  And I think about it more  as I’m writing about it and when getting feedback from it.  It’s not always pretty, or “safe.”  But this life is not always pretty, nor safe. It’s not safe at all, really.  Any day could be our last here in this life.   So write what you think…. And write who you are.  There will never be another you.

    • http://www.amycroall.blogspot.com/ Amy Croall

      I’m right there with you, Pat. My current YA series I’m writing involves a very risque situation in which a high school teacher falls in love with his sixteen-year-old student. 

      At first, I thought maybe I shouldn’t go there. But after some consideration, I said, “You know what? I don’t care.” That was where the story was going. Far be it from me to say “No.” to my characters.

  • Katharine Trauger

    Been there.
    Got tired of being crucified.
    Guess this is a call to re-up.
    Sighs.

  • Rocket_rockers007

    hy follow me @adityarahman57:twitter  thanks

  • http://www.marcensign.com/blog Marc Ensign

    Hey Jeff! This was a great post, thanks! I have to admit that I have been a little safe on my blog with an occasional spurt of dangerous. Small spurt. This inspired me to stretch a bit. To get something out of my system that has been festering for a little while but was a little afraid to “upset the applecart”. Take a look and if this post is the start of my demise, it’s all your fault :)  http://www.marcensign.com/me-me-me-i-i-i/

  • Guest

    Hey Jeff! This was a great post, thanks! I have to admit that I have been a little safe on my blog with an occasional spurt of dangerous. Small spurt. This inspired me to stretch a bit. To get something out of my system that has been festering for a little while but was a little afraid to “upset the applecart”. Take a look and if this post is the start of my demise, it’s all your fault :)  http://www.marcensign.com/me-me-me-i-i-i/

    • http://www.marcensign.com/blog Marc Ensign

      Sorry Jeff…you can delete this one. For some reason it posted twice and then when I tried to delete it through Disqus it left it as a guest post. My bad.

  • Khallsweet

    Great post! I needed this. I find myself going back and forth between saying what I want and saying what won’t get me in trouble, deepening on the day. It’s so easy to fall in to the trap of worrying about what your readers are thinking.

  • Tina Mollie Fisher

    You have some of the most inspiring posts! I now have a new girl crush on Jamie the Very Worst Missionary….I’ve often thought my blog should not be called Happy Fun Girl but instead, Tina the Terrible Christian :) Thanks Jeff for encouraging braveness!

  • http://twitter.com/docmon67 Monica T. Rodriguez

    Totally right, and totally what I don’t do. Time to change my MO. Thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/KrystinaFeucht Krystina Feucht

    Funny how the first rule that comes to mind is one that I set on myself. It feels good to break your own rules. 

  • Acaida Elle

    Hi Jeff,

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot since I first read it.  I almost always stay in a safe zone.  I want to stop that and write in a way that is more true to who I am.  I am tired of making everything vanilla.  I do it because confrontation makes me cringe inside.  You have made me think.  I want the little girl cowering inside of me to stand up and declare who she is without fear of censure.  If someone doesn’t like what I say, that’s okay!  Well, that’s how I’d like to feel.   So, I’ve taken the first step and posted something controversial on my Facebook page.  Facebook is not my favorite venue but I can be sure more people will see it there.  I wrote about something that I feel strongly about, something that my fears would normally have kept me from writing.  Thank you for challenging me to stand up and make a declaration.  It really feels good.  I hope I’ll be able to handle any dissenting comments that come my way and do it again.

    Cheers,
    Acadia elle

  • http://twitter.com/MatrixLajon Matrix Lajon

    Spot on message.  Recently started a blog so this really hits home for me.

  • http://JaredLatigo.com/ Jared Latigo

    I wrote a post in reference to this. It comes out tomorrow and I’ll be sure to share. You’re an inspiration Jeff, thanks for what you do!

  • http://JaredLatigo.com/ Jared Latigo

    As promised, here’s my post in reference to this one. Thanks again and hope you like it! http://jaredlatigo.com/the-abolishment-of-entitlement-and-the-pursuit-of-action/

  • http://www.economicliferecovery.com/ Nicholas Brack

    Ok, I get it. S**t or get off the pot.  So here goes.  This one is from the heart!!!!!

    “It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.” Tyler Durden

    There.  Now I said something I really wanted to say.  And wait till you see the new guest post I have coming up … (of which Jeff beat me during #15habits until I did it.) … it ties write into the Durden quote.

    Once again … thanks for kicking my *ss with your writing Jeff!

    P.S.   I said how I felt.  Sorry for the colorful words.  (Forgive me Lord.)  Just bein’ honest!

  • F. Glenn Bowen

    I could “comment” on nearly everything you write.
    You sir, are a phenom.
    But I think I’ve already said that to you before.
    Thanks… for..
    Leading.

  • http://kevencard.com Keven Card

    I can’t think of a time when I did follow the rules until I started writing and thought it was taboo to be plain spoken. Well, all I can say is the world better be ready because my mouth is burning up with the things I want to say and for some reason now feel free to write!

  • David Martin

    Jeff, I mentioned it in another comment, but I thought I’d say it here, too.

    This article really challenged me.

    Some friends and I have a website on helping people overcome pornography. It’s radical in its teaching and its approach. But you can only barely tell that by reading it. We played it too “safe” in our writing, so we wouldn’t “turn people off” before they even heard us.

    The result? Great content, sure… but way too easy to ignore. It’s simply not “dangerous” enough to really grab people’s attention and get them to *think differently.*

    So, when I read this article, I knew that if we ever wanted to really get the word out, we’d need to have a following… and to have a following, we  couldn’t “play it safe” anymore.

    So I started a blog. Each article will be short (relative to what I usually produce) and it will make only *one* point (another very good piece of advice from you!) without trying to answer every objection that will pop into people’s heads when the read the article. And, of course, it will say something radical… I’m prepared to duck flying tomatoes or any other verbal abuse.

    I also took some advice from Derek Halpern about layout (use a picture to make the first paragraph thinner) and making that first paragraph the hook that will pull them in for the entire article.

    Then at the end of each article, I’m pointing them to related articles on the core website.

    I’m really excited about the results. Once it goes live, we’ll see what impact it has on traffic!

    So, thanks, Jeff for your influence on my writing AND my strategy to get the message out.

    David Martin
    http://mychainsaregone.org/blog (PW: MCAG)

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      Awesome David!

  • http://getmorefollows.com/ Calebhill

    I would love to follow those who break the rules and would stay on their own.

  • Antonio Segura Cantero

    Genial, enhorabuena por la entrada !!!

  • caitlinelizabeth
  • prophetsandpopstars

    I’ve been hearing this alot lately. Maybe it’s…true. After a perochial existence of learning to follow rules, this is difficult. I’m a blogging pastor who stepped outside the lines and started working through 1 Samuel looking at the Game of Thrones by way of comparison. I had a member of my congregation accuse me of introducing minors to porn. 

    It’s funny how blogging to ‘not get fired’ or ‘not get whatever’ gets default real quick. 

    Glad you kicked my butt a little. 

  • http://twitter.com/Say__Wallahi NashNoe

    Follow @say__wallahi:twitter 

  • Lucy Arden

    Jeff–

    Thanks for this tip! It’s exactly whatI need to freshen up my blog. I hadn’t thought of it before, but now that you mention it, I think I’ll try it. Something totally random but still relevant to the theme of my blog. Thanks again!

    -Lucy from http://www.howtowriteandwritewell.blogspot.com

  • Klo10f

    This is great! I’m just getting started and intend to bring an earthquake to the blogosphere. Follow me here: http://kendalllarae.wordpress.com/

  • Una Eve

    Very goof tips but maybe not so easy to follow for us -the common people- who are trained all our life to say only what we  think won’t get us into trouble .
    Nevertheless it is good to know that there are such people somewhere out there-who are not afraid to brake the rules,maybe we will learn from them by time ;)
     Una dressed in Books

  • FATEMA YOUNUS

    Just leave me a comment once you’ve followed me and I’ll follow you back :) X

    http://wondergirlsbeautyblog.blogspot.co.uk/

  • ShannonIsEsther

    He just mentioned Tyler Durden. I’m so happy. So so so happy.

    • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

      :)

  • Kimber Fodge

    Jeff, this was a great read. I’m really curious, though, about how to convert page views into “followers.” I have thousands of page views (and I’m guessing repeat readers), but only five “followers.” By followers here, I mean the people who will publicly admit to reading my dribble by clicking “follow.” I personally don’t follow many blogs because I find it easier to favorite them or post a pic in a Pinterest.

    Is there a better way out there to gauge who is a repeat offender (err…. reader) and thus have a better idea of who can’t help but come back for more?

    Lemon in my Coke, Si Us Plau. williamandkimber.blogspot.com

  • Vessiana

    Thank you, Jeff :)

    I want to be myself and therefore and won’t to be part of that fair of authors writing about the happiness. I suggest a different way to be happy and it’s to be what you really want to be:))

    You can check out this blog: http://www.vessiana.com

  • http://christopherkokoski.com/ Christopher Kokoski, Author

    Thanks for the morning wake up call, the jolt out of automatic that will hopefully trigger more authentic, dangerous content across the web. It makes so much sense. I have subscribed.