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Your Mistakes Don’t Define You, They Teach You

Sometimes, I even amaze myself at how many things I can screw up in a short amount of time.

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Just the other day, a friend pointed out I had inadvertently plagiarized his work on my blog. He was beyond gracious about it, but I was mortified.

Less than a week before that infraction, I realized I had, once again unintentionally, blown off someone I respected through an email mishap that made me look like a royal jerk.

And not quite a month ago, I miscommunicated with another friend, inviting him to come speak at an event I was hosting, only to realize he came a week early due to an unclear text message.

Now, you might see these as completely understandable misunderstandings and oversights. And you would be right. But one after another makes me want to throw in the towel. Little mistakes like these add up, running into each other like dominos, making me feel like a total amateur.

Am I the only one who experiences this?

You have a good week and before you can get a big head about yourself, something goes terrible wrong and reminds you of how perfectly imperfect you are? I think these times, as difficult as they can be, are essential to our growth.

No stranger to stupid

I am no stranger to stupid mistakes. I wrote the book on messing things up, royally (okay, not really, but that book would sell like crazy).

If you were somehow misled by the veneer of a well-designed website, let me set the record straight for you: I don’t have my stuff figured out.

I am often late to meetings, disappointing the ones I love, and regretting dumb things I say. I wish it weren’t this way, but no matter how hard I try, I sometimes just can’t get it right. As my sister likes to say, “Sometimes, I suck at life.”

Don’t get me wrong, though. This isn’t a pity party. I am not resigned to my mistakes; I believe I can grow. This is just me being real and an invitation into the truth.

Because, I think, sometimes we all suck at life.

We all fall short, we all betray our consciences and let down those who matter most to us. And these things are not okay. But they are also not the end of the story.

Our struggles don’t define us. But they can help us grow.

The lessons of failure

When I have a week or even a month like the one I had lately, I’m reminded of a few things:

  • Failure means I’m still alive. When I die and go to heaven, things will be perfect. Until then, I will be surrounded by imperfect, especially my own. The good news in this is that it means I’m not dead.
  • Failure means there’s room to grow. I don’t know about you, but I hate the feeling like I’ve stagnated or plateaued. And I love the exhilaration of learning a new skill or growing at something.
  • Failure means I’m human. We don’t like talking about our failures very much, but I believe it’s the one thing we have in common with everyone. Remembering this, even sharing my struggles, is a great way to connect with my humanity (and with others who can relate).

I think we sometimes misunderstand failure. We think our mistakes either don’t matter or we believe that they define us. Neither of these is true.

The truth is with every shortcoming, we can learn something. We can grow. We can become more of the people we were born to be, instead of merely the shadow of a true self. And along the way, may we encounter the grace that keeps us going.

So that’s where I’ll leave this. Sometimes, I suck at life. I screw up relationships and miss deadlines and fail to keep it together. If you resonate with this, if you want to join this chorus of imperfection, I invite you to do so below in the comments.

Who knows? Maybe in sharing your struggle, you’ll give someone else permission to do the same.

How have you recently fallen short lately? Share in the comments.

About Jeff Goins

I write books and help writers get their work out into the world. I am the best-selling author of four books, including The Art of Work. Each week, I send out a newsletter with free tips on writing and creativity.

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  • Misti Freeland

    Yeah, so after a week of feeling like I completely suck at life, your post hit home! HOW do you do that? Your timing is always impeccable!

  • It is most definitely in the falls of failure where growth rests and comes alive, if you feed it. It took me almost 30 years to realize that. Forever, I let myself believe that my failures defined me. So, I hid them, suppressed them or didn’t even pursue the things that I could potentially fail at. Thanks for the imperfect article.

  • Scott Smail

    Perfect timing jeff!! Just this morning I was thinking of things I’ve screwed up, bad decisions, etc… Something I have to work on constantly is to not allow these things to define me. it’s easy to fall into the comparison mode with others we see, but the truth is we are perfectly imperfect people.

  • I just reconnected with an old friend this week by apologizing for something I did to her in the 8th grade, and we are in our mid-40s now. She had no idea what I was talking about while I had hung onto that mistake for over 30 years. I had to own it (which I should have done at the time), but it’s only been within the last year that I have learned that I’m not the only one who makes mistakes, and I am not my mistakes. Good article, and good timing with it!

  • Thanks for this post Jeff. I tend to allow my failures to define who I think I am. I hold on to them way too much. It wasn’t until recently I failed my first class in Seminary. I was devastated. But then I had the epiphany that I am not my GPA or the like, I am a child of God. My identity is to be found in Him and what Christ has done for me. Not in my worldly work. While it sucks that I have to retake the class, I learned something about myself because of it. I’ve also learned that Matt 6:33 rings true that in seeking God first all other things fall into line. God bless you and those who read this post. Paul

  • Great post, Jeff.

    As a mom, I see how my children handle their own failures and they aren’t any better at it than I am. Handling them well has to be learned and I think knowing that we are not alone helps us to accept them.

    Personally, I do all the small things wrong that most of humanity does. But then there are those moments when I completely drop the ball in a totally childish, immature way. (Think Miss Bossy-Pants.) I say that because I think we all can make mistakes that we consider socially acceptable and own up to but then there are the ones we feel shame about. But we are not alone in those either!

    At least, I hope I’m not the only one! LOL! Someone back me up on this! 😀

  • Edwina

    I am new to reading these posts and to be honest I have never commented on any. But this one touched me. You connected with us readers through a simple humble acknowledgement of our human errors. Something we all have in common. Thank you.

  • The death of my aunt caused me to put on hold a guest post I’ve been writing. When I get off schedule I feel like I’ve fallen short. Your post today reminds me to soldier on! Thanks Jeff.

  • DomSharee

    I also have a huge issue with making mistakes or with my own failures. I feel as though I am out of time and I don’t anymore left to make mistakes or have a list of failures lined up with no success points in sight. After reading your post, I see how I have been allowing my failures to define who I am and affect my confidence which in turn is affecting me and my business. This post made me really think about that and reflect on changes that I need to make and will be making. Thank you for just a reality driven post, it came just in the nick of time!

  • Susan Bailey

    Sounds like you were a bit overloaded. Hopefully things are calming down just a bit with your successful book launch. What you describe as a “big head” I call my “delusional bubble” which God pricks with a pin when needed to deflate that bubble. Ouch! It hurts but yes, it’s a good thing and YES, growth rocks! That’s the reward for failure but as you have in your post here, we have to own up to that failure to reap the reward. Keep growing Jeff!

  • glsword

    Thanks for your honesty! These are the things that keep me up at night, the silly things, rash decisions, misspoken words, forgotten tasks…I’m thankful for community that reminds me we are all in this together!

  • Ingrid

    It seems like your post came at the write time. Today, I just took my second practice GMAT test and I did worse than the first time. I felt like a complete failure and broke down. However, I got myself back together and I can now change the way I study so that it’s more effective so that I can do better the next time and do awesome on the real test in July! Thanks for the encouragement!! Much needed.

  • Jeff, how good it is to share our humanity… I’m such a perfectionnist and such over-responsible… But the difference between now and the past years is that now I KNOW how I behave.I realized it’s like a program that had been implemented in my brain and my understanding. The word of God helps us to redefine our identity. Each time I want to “do it all” and perfectly perfect , I realize that the first command is “Worship God alone” Sometimes, our work, our cherished ideas, our vision, our book, become our idols. We start to be frustrated and angry full of pride or discouragement because Idols, works of our hands without a renewed spirit can’t bring us fully joy and peace.
    Thanks Jeff for posting this. I appreciate your capacity to share about your struggles. I received your “Art of Work”. ! I have some holidays now, so I will start to read and meditate on it. And then, I will tell you what I think about it. As I am a french woman, perhaps I will have another version, or vision to give, different reactions…Hope it will help you and bless you if I share. I know you are a successful and brilliant author and I’m just a beginner in this process of creation and writing but sometime, neophyts can bring a fresh and helpful understanding. See you soon on our favorite networks. Blessings.

  • Elizabeth Fox

    Wow! I just finished telling my assistant how discouraged I was about a whole series of things I have messed up recently… and then your email showed up in my inbox. I could relate to every word! Thanks for reminding me that while my mistakes matter, that’s not the end of the story and they don’t define me. OK… back to work to improve customer service in some areas where I’ve messed up lately.

  • Dennis

    It is only walking with God we can be perfect. Sometimes, out of anxiety, we mess things up but in the process of admitting our mistakes, we scale through one barrier in life. That does not mean another won’t surface but let be assured that as long as we are not in paradise or heaven yet, many errs will erupt. Thanks Mr Jeff, l just did a mistake for not commending your good works which glories your father in heaven 😊

  • Good timing on this article, Jeff. I was just reeling from two blunders I made. They both had to do with scheduling. One I was too quick to say “Yes” to something and then later found out that I shouldn’t have. That the headache, struggle and cancellation of other things was not worth it. My second was overlooking a podcast interview appointment. I burned that bridge. I am really frustrated. But, I learned something. One, do be so damn quick to say “yes” and two, look at my calendar more often. Even when I think I know what’s on it.

  • I really appreciate your honesty Jeff. Today is as recent as it gets! I’ve fallen short a bit with a few commitments these past 2 or 3 days. I’m learning that while working hard I can be a bit more gracious and forgiving with myself.

    I’m prone to trying to figure it all out, and minimize making mistakes, but sometimes that actually ends up being counter-intuitive to the whole learning process. Honestly, it’s my pride that I’ve got to lay down. Constantly. It’s great how our failures and struggles can be recycled like this to encourage others!

  • Krithika Rangarajan

    Well, I missed ya, Jeff! hehe

    I remember falling short of a friend’s expectations. She was sweet enough to let it go – especially since she hadn’t paid me – but my stupidity still pinches me!

    Good to know that bestselling authors can screw up too! 😉 hehe

    We LOVE your honesty, Jeff – never change! #HUGS

    Kitto

  • Anne

    On of my sayings is that everybody goes thru stupid. Especially between the ages of 16 and 26. The stupid things I did when I was young included driving home after having 6 Bombay and tonics. There were so many times that our Lord and my guardian angels wrapped their loving arms and wings around me and got me home safely

  • Jilliann

    Hi Jeff, fellow human,
    Ugh! you are hitting the nail on the head. I recently purposed to comfort a friend who is dealing her son being diagnosed with cancer. It’s one of those times when I should have just been quietly there – instead I tripped over my tongue in an attempt to comfort. Next time I will do better. Thanks for your candor –

  • Nodded myself silly reading this one, Jeff.

    I’ve recently been guilty of saying “yes” to projects when I should have said, “no.” I tend to be a people-pleaser. I want to say “yes” when people ask for help. The problem is, when you over-commit, you under-deliver and wind up inconveniencing the very people you intended to help. So I’m making a concerted effort to my manage time and resources better.

  • Karen Collings Stewart

    This resonates with me and reminds me of too many times I’ve gotten a little too big for my britches and take on too much. I totally relate to Gary’s comments. When I say yes to everything when I should be honest and saying no I end up breaking promises and messing up instead of doing a few things well and following through. Take heart fellow humans — today is a new day 🙂

  • Kim Roberts

    Oh yes. The question is more like: How haven’t I fallen short lately? thanks for sharing Jeff.

  • Jeff – what an excellent point! Sometimes I feel like everyone demands perfections when in reality, we are imperfect and no matter what we do, there will always be those tiny mistakes to trip us up. Thanks for the reminder that we all have failures, its our attitude about them that matter. Shake it off and keep moving forward!

  • This post is so perfectly timed I think God must have literally planted the idea in your mind because He knew I’d need it today. Seriously. I just got home from one of THE WORST days at work ever. I made mistake after mistake, and mistakes that I made months ago caught up with me. I try really hard to be a competent part of the team, but I felt like I let everyone down today. (My chronic pain acted up worse than ever, too, so my internal mood, however much disguised externally, was pretty poor.) I certainly felt defined by my incompetence and failures. Add that to the various mistakes I’ve made recently in my writing career, my relationships… The camel’s back certainly broke today.

    But then I came home, vented, checked my emails… and read your blog post. Somehow I don’t feel like a failure anymore. I feel flawed, but forgiven. You’re right. The big picture reminds me that I have a purpose, that I am not defined by my failures, and that I always have another chance to try again and do better next time. Thanks for your encouragement, and thanks for the honesty to share your own mistakes and the proper perspective that should accompany them.

    Especially today, I really appreciate it!

  • Katharine

    My main booboo is continuous: The paralysis that comes from the fear of failure. Sigh.

  • T Hopkins

    I think it’s a safe bet to say you have so much going on right now–so many hats you’re wearing–that something’s got to give. Luckily you have some nice friends who understand. Friendships are priceless. I’m thinking about one thing you said in particular. You spun it one way, but to me, it’s stifling: “You have a good week and before you can get a big head about yourself, something goes terrible wrong and reminds you of how perfectly imperfect you are? I think these times, as difficult as they can be, are essential to our growth.” See, I would like just once to have a chance to get a big head about myself. I think it would be very beneficial to my self-confidence. Otherwise, every time one of these humbling events comes about, it just blows that all to smithereens and can sometimes make a person afraid to try again–and when they do pivot, it’s not always in a way that serves them or their true purpose. I say this not in any way to criticize your words, because I truly do take them to heart. But it sure can get frustrating sometimes, can it not?

  • Irene Aprile

    I recently wrote a blog post on this topic. Obviously your post are always incredibly insightful and helpful!

    https://ireneaprile.com/2015/05/02/what-i-learnt-from-failing/

  • I’m struggling to finish writing a blog post that I’ve been working on for months. It’s probably the most revealing and vulnerable post I’ve written so far, which is why I’m procrastinating. I feel so drained and discouraged that I haven’t blogged in weeks.

  • Always enjoy your work, Jeff (from another Jeff). Your insights, focus on the core of your art/work, and your encouragement to so many who agree with me that you are among those who has important concepts to share, artfully expressed. I was among the lucky ones who receive your new book, and have enjoyed reading it twice so far. It’s packed with great information and advice. I’ve read your earlier books as well, and you remain one of my most important go-to advisors. Thanks for all you write, think, share, and do for those of us still struggling to express ourselves as eloquently as you do.

  • Sage Akporherhe

    Hello mr jeff i am also into the MLM industry and the main reason why people critique the business and don’t wanna join the business even though its an industry that makes a total of $167 billion per year and become six to seven figure earners in a reasonably short time is the fear of being rejected without them even knowing that what differentiates the rich from the poor is the willingness to accept failure, learn from it and move on because they know it is part of the learning process to achieving great success. That’s just what differentiates the rich from the poor, the willingness to fail its as simple as that.

  • I’m not sure if this applies, but a few days ago, I was talked into attending a funeral of a family friend I didn’t want to attend, because I preferred to stay home to get some writing done on the computer, and to read literature. I was upset about my aunt talking me into going. I got into an arugument with her and my grandmother on our way down to the funeral home.

    Upon our arrival to the funeral home, I already had negative energy, because of my attitude prior to arriving. Without realizing, I affected the moods of others who were in attendence at the funeral, in particular, at least a family member of the deceased. I offered my condolences to her for the passing of her father in law, but internally, I was kind of moody. I though I covered it up when speaking to the woman. When I approached her I said, “I’m so sorry about the passing of your father in law.” She gave me a cold thank you. I couldn’t understand why, when she was pleasant to my aunt prior to that and all smiles and happy to see her. Other times the woman in particular was pleasant when I would approach her to talk to her.

    Arriving home from the funeral home, I analyzed my own behavior, and my attitude, particularly when I wanted to only go there to sign the guest book, make an apprearance, and leave without having to stay for the wake. I complained bitterly to my aunt about how I wanted to go home and didn’t want to stay, because I had more important things to do, such as compose somemore writing on the computer, and do some reading and additional work I needed to accomplish on my computer.

    After reading your article moments ago, I questioned my behavior I had at the funeral home, and how I conducted myself overall. I can only assume the woman didn’t find my condolences to be sincere. Perhaps she felt my negative energy, and it was passed onto her. I was inconsiderate,in the sense when it came down to it, I wasn’t sincere. I cared only about myself, and what I’d rather do and where I preferred to be as opposed to being at the funeral home to attend her father in laws wake. I realize I need to know there is a time to put myself and my needs first, but there is also a time when I need to put others and their needs first, before my own.

  • David Mike

    I know this all too well. I’m writing the epic book of failure. Thank God for His grace and forgiveness. Thank you for your transparent authenticity.

  • Gabi Montoya-Eyerman

    I regularly use an example of my own failure in my classroom. How my lack of time management in college led to my failure of an English class(my easy class that I was trying to coast through . .). The teacher had decided to fail me because I had a C- and it was his option to fail me. At first I was angry but then I realized I really could do better and went on to get an A on my retake the next semester. Failure can be a great way to learn.

  • Richard Huckle

    The rate of failure is directly proportional to unreasonable expectations?

  • Just simply . . . Alleluia!!

  • Hmm, recent failures? Like yesterday, when I frustrated my 1-1/2 yr old daughter, and then was frustrated that she wouldn’t “get over it” & stop crying immediately? And this from the guy who’s trying to become a “go-to” resource teaching dads how to be remarkable. 🙁
    I am so grateful that we can be forgiven by those we offend, and learn to grow from our mistakes.

  • dandy trooper

    I find that the easiest way to deal with mistakes is to be the first to acknowledge them. I am lousy at remembering names so I tell people it will take me a few times to remember their name. People are very gracious when you are honest with them.

    To me, failure is refusing to correct mistakes.

  • Oh! I have failed terribly at relationships. The series at church right now is all about redeeming busted relationships. I’m so guilty! Miscommunication, rude words, purposeful rejections…. It makes me want to climb in a hole, but I’m learning… To initiate, to be the first to ask for forgiveness or clarification fixes most of the mess ups I’ve done. Thank you Jesus for being brave and people who give Grace when I’m a complete idiot. Love the honesty this post brought about!

  • I’m sure I can beat you screwing things up in a very short time … I bet on that 🙂

  • Richard

    …it is all part of life’s rich tapestry

  • DS Westervelt

    Jeff, This is part of my day-to-day life. I had three thoughts as I read your email today. First, Lao Tzu said that “marriage is 10% love and 90% forgiveness of sin.” (I’m married 18-years this week to the most forgiving person–and we have FOUR little ones. READ: LOTS of occasion for apologies.) The second thought was from one of my heroes, who wrote: “…what I want to do, I don’t I don’t do. And what I don’t want to do–I keep doing…” He went on to say that this causes him to realize (as you mentioned) his own humanness–and his need to not (paraphrasing here) insist on pretending he’s superman. Third, what’s so refreshing is to hear these things from you–who’s writing (publishing) them just as you are experiencing your most extraordinary professional success. I so appreciate your honesty. And your humanness. Wonderful job Jeff! Many thanks! Dale

  • Clara Meierdierks

    Just like everyother Person i have Made mistakes , but what i did not allow , was letting my mistakes Diktate my Future .

  • Rhonda Marie Stalb

    Failure is my middle name, but I agree that it doesn’t define me. I have strived over the last three years to get a job in the field I am called to only to have many doors slammed in my face, however this last few years has been a growth period for me and a time that has stretch and grown my faith. I have also been an imperfect parent at times, but who isn’t. Plus there are times in my marriage where I just blow it by being mean or disrespectful just because I am mad. My husband graciously forgives me, but I lament my behavior. So I strive to make changes to my attitude through prayer and reliance on a God who loves me and gives me the power and fortitude to make imperfect progress.
    Thanks Jeff for your post…very encouraging!

  • Luana

    I think that would be a cool book. Failing royally. I mean, I’d probably want to read it

  • Clara Meierdierks

    Hai Jeff, i. Made the mistake of not saying thank you !, this is True ! “our mistakes in life should help us to grow “Thanks once More .

  • Michael (Mike) Croucher

    Over the decades (lots of them), I’ve never stopped screwing up from time to time, most of us never will. I used to carry my mistakes around for days, weeks, months, and sometimes years. Now I shrug most of them off fairly quickly. I know I’ve screwed up quite a few times this month already, but when I tried to formulate a list for this comment, I couldn’t remember them. I guess it best to just let them go.

  • James Haydock

    Here’s someone with a wonderful perspective on life (that can write really, really well).Thanks for being you Jeff. For being honest, connecting with others and making a difference.

  • Mind Body Apparel

    I’d like to join the “I’m not perfect challenge”. The best part about making a mistake is that it helps you kick fear to the side. The more mistakes I make, the more lessons I learn. I call this living life to the fullest. Anyhow, I’d rather live a life of mistakes and lessons, than to live a perfect life and not accomplishing anything. My mistakes are worth my lessons. Thanks for posting Jeff. Comment by Ricky

  • sherri

    wow… so vulnerable and transparent and so needful. I’m joining the chorus of imperfection! The statement that resonated with me personally and was a ‘aha’ moment was “our failures don’t define who we are”. It said to me as I read it, “the things we do that others perceive as a failure don’t define us, either.” Yahoo!! That’s how I have lived and now, hopefully, I will remember this truth for more than a day and let it be life-changing as it was the moment I read it. Thanks for your transparency and sharing your heart.

  • Erin Lee

    Hey Jeff! Thank you for sharing this! such a timely post too. I’ve been feeling the same way recently, like what your sister said, I suck at life. or more specifically, I suck at being an adult.

    One of the lines that really resonates with me is “I screw up relationships.” It’s been like this for the last few months, ever since I became depressed. Every little thing sets me off, and some people think I’ve made a mistake by posting an angry rant on my Facebook account about one of the managers in my office (I was expressing anger over her comment about my depression that personally offended me). But the thing is, I don’t regret what I did, or even see it as a mistake. People have even gone as far as calling her out on her behavior because she started harassing them over their comments to my post.

    “We think our mistakes either don’t matter or we believe that they define us.” Another statement I can relate to. “Failure means I’m human”, mistakes means I stumble and fall and I won’t get it right all the time. I will screw up. It’s inevitable. I’m only human. We all are. So I’m here to join the “imperfect” club as well.

    Really, thank you for this post. I’m really grateful. It helps me to know that I’m not alone, and that there’s room for me to learn from my mistakes and grow.

    Kudos and more power to you! 🙂

  • Gwen Hannan Meharg

    Have I failed recently? Let me check my watch, uh, yes!
    Someone posted on Instagram “I never lose. I win or I learn something.”
    I like that. Let losing, failure be an opportunity to learn something.
    It gets disappointing when the words are out of the mouth before the previously learned lesson has time to tap me on the shoulder and remind me I have already LEARNED this once, twice, a dozen times. Sigh. Live and learn! and learn,and learn!
    Thank you for not being perfect!

  • griffinrosse

    It is comforting to hear another relaying what seemed a singular state. I seem wired to foot shoot. But that is just a foot shooting thought.

  • I received this in my email a few days ago, but because of my busy schedule I didn’t read it until now. But that’s a good thing because right now I’m in a season of trying to be perfect and impress someone who knows I’m not. It’s eye opening to realize I don’t have to be perfect because Jesus is . I just have to be me and work to be the one I was supposed to be as I remove the layers to discover the truth in and about me.

    Thank you Jeff for reminding me “I’m not alone and I too make mistakes.

  • This is good stuff, Jeff. I also know Stupid. We should get drinks some time.

    Over the years I’ve decided that I need to embrace my screw-ups as a vital part of learning anything. In my case, that means there’s a lot of embracing around here. But understanding that I am very likely going to fall short and that those screw-ups are, in fact, par for the course gives me permission to try more freely.

    Thanks for a great post.

  • Ngaaah! It’s the hardest in parenting! My thought seems to always be, “stop growing until I can figure out how to parent you!” Right?

    Wow, thanks for sharing your specific mess-ups. It makes us feel like we’re not alone! =) The speaker coming a week early cracked me up.

  • Kathleen Tozier

    Boy-oh-boy is that the truth…although that means I should be absolutely BRILLIANT by now 🙂 Seriously, though, at this early stage of my business launch I feel like I’m dropping the ball at every turn on many days, interspersed with a few days where I feel 10 feet tall and bullet proof, but there haven’t been enough of those, yet. There are so many things to manage in the virtual world–and in the real world–and it seems to me like when I’m keeping up well in one world, I’m losing ground in the other, and I’m trying to find the balance. Thanks for the chuckle, and for the validation that it’s not just me (cause I’ll be totally honest and say there have been a few days recently that I’ve wondered if I’m cut out for this after all).

  • Ruth Chapman

    Yes, I have certainly experienced failure! I definitely resonate with your article. You are right to point out the positives associated with failure though. There always seems to be something we can learn from it. Failure just makes the lesson more memorable.

  • Aoife Keegan

    “When I die and go to heaven, things will be perfect. Until then, I will be surrounded by imperfect, especially my own. The good news in this is that it means I’m not dead.”
    Yes! And it’s good to be alive!
    I regularly fail to return calls and emails. I regularly hit “snooze”. I regularly show up late.
    BUT this year I have noticed a new determination in me to start and maintain habits. Something has changed inside of me and while I still fail big and fail often, I can see changes in my work ethic that give me reasons to smile.
    Since the beginning of this month I have been consistent in committing to Bible reading, prayer, writing my 500 words, and violin practice everyday. You know what? It feels good 🙂

  • Jordan

    I like the part where you said -“We don’t like talking about our failures very much, but I believe its the one thing we have in common with everyone.” Making mistakes is a very very humbling experience, we live in a society that is built indulging our pride, which makes admitting when we messed up hard because we all want to carry with a facade that we are all perfect people that never do wrong and having everything together in our lives. But I find that being straight up about who I am, and all that I am and how I continue to mess up on a daily basis -opens up those around me to do the same because they realize I am not someone who is going to judge them or try to fix them. I have made a lot of friends being this way. It is truly the common ground we all share that opens up a forgiving nature in ourselves not there before which can fix any misunderstanding lead by a one sided perception -which is what I believe drives all fights. It drives me crazy when people judge what I have gone through and immediately try to fix me when they have their own closet of skeletons. CRAZY! We need to unit hand in hand as brothers and sisters and love with compassion.
    Who are we all trying to prove our selves to anyways? Should be the King of Kings.

  • scott

    FAILURE AFTER FAILURE, I DO NOT KNOW WHY, I KEEP TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING, I AM 55, AND EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES IT IS VERY DEPRESSING FOR ME, I KEEP TRYING, I DON’T KNOW WHY BUT I DO. SOMETIMES I WANTA GIVE UP BUT THEN I REMEMBER THE PERSON THAT IS SUFFERING AND HUNGRY AND SICK, I ALWAYS HAVE THEM IN MY PRAYERS AS I AM VERY THANK FULL AND GRATEFUL FOR BEING ALIVE AND RUNNING.