The other day, my mom told me a story about a coworker (and friend) who wanted her to lie to the boss. She refused. She just couldn't lie like that. The friend lost her job, and my mom lost her friend.
Every day, we have the choice to tell the truth or not. We can be honest with ourselves about who we are and the challenges we face, or we can lie about it. That's a choice that's up to you and me.
Be honest about the problem
The other day at a leadership conference, I heard speaker and author Seth Godin give some advice to an auditorium of leaders:
Tell the truth.
The question was: “How do I innovate within a bureaucracy?”
Godin's summation was simple: Your situation isn't as bad as you think. You may not have the freedom to do whatever you want. But you can do something. So start there.
Let's say you're facing an important decision or dealing with a certain problem, and you don't know what to do. Where do you begin?
Stop lying. That's a good place to start. And then, honestly identify what's really standing in your way.
What's the issue?
Is it your boss… or fear? Is it laziness… or Resistance? Is it them… or you?
Just tell the truth. Isn't that usually the right answer? The question may be, “How do I get a husband?” or “How do I find the right job?” Or even, “How do I market this product?”
But no matter what, the answer is always honesty. Integrity, though sometimes costly, ultimately wins. The problem is not always so simple, and neither is the solution.
When you write, tell it like it is. We are all waiting for the truth, and so few people are willing to tell it.
Let's get ugly
I'm not just talking about the partial truth. I mean the whole enchilada. The gritty, ugly, scary-to-share, vulnerable truth. The kind that might make you look bad.
The irony is this is exactly what people want from you. To honestly share your story, even — no, especially — when it costs you something. Above all, you must be true.
You cannot fluff or exaggerate the details to impress someone. Be honest. Be yourself. And write like only you can, because if you don't tell your story, who else will?
So whenever you write or speak or sit down to dinner with your spouse tonight, be honest. Share what you have to say and do it from the heart, your heart. No one else can do that. Tell the truth. It's the only thing worth listening to.
How have you seen the benefit of telling the truth in your own life? Share in the comments.