Stop Waiting to Be Picked or Your Dreams Will Die

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The reason publishers are signing authors who have built their own platforms is the same reason YouTube sensations are appearing in car commercials. They aren’t waiting to be picked.

Stop Waiting to be Picked

Every day, writers are choosing to in spite of the rumor that it’s too late to succeed. They’re deciding that now is always the best time to begin pursuing their calling. And this is what makes them so attractive.

Sure, there have been trailblazers and trendsetters who’ve come before. Many writers and bloggers have already staked their claim and found success. But if we know anything about history, it’s that it repeats itself.

Audiences are always ready for one more voice. One more leader. We’re always ready to hear from someone who is “crazy enough to change the world.” And the next leader could be you — if you would just stop waiting.

Audiences are always ready for one more voice.

Jeff Goins

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We all want to be picked

Of course, this is natural: the desire to be chosen, to fit in with society’s standards, to be liked by the cool kids. It’s also a myth.

For every person or group that picks you, there is one that doesn’t — or even a hundred of them. You can spend your whole life trying to please them all, and never take any action whatsoever toward your dream.

Or you can focus your attention on something that matters, like finding your tribe.

You must pick yourself

The real trick is not to wait, but to pick yourself, to “turn pro” in your head (as Steven Pressfield says). To believe you can achieve the same things that today’s biggest writers and bloggers have already achieved. To believe that it’s never too late to start.

This is how you become “legit” in the eyes of others, by the way — not by waiting for acknowledgment, or by waiting for the safest time to act, but by deciding against all odds that the time is now.

Our heroes do this

This is what we love about the most successful authors. They don’t care about the system. They don’t care about whether someone else got started in the so-called golden age of blogging and has an unfair advantage. They don’t care if a fellow writer has already built a big platform or written a bestselling book. They care about creating art or helping people or finding their tribe. They care about now, not then.

Of course, we also know they’re not exactly fearless in their quests. We’ve read enough biographies and seen enough interviews to know that our heroes are just as human and insecure as we are. Even if they did get started in the so-called golden age of blogging, they still fear having missed the golden age of literature, or the Renaissance, or the Romantic period. They still wonder if now is the right time — and then they act, anyway. They do something different with their fear. They don’t let it debilitate them. They choose to create and share their work, anyway.

They work through the fear instead of waiting to feel unafraid before creating their best work. And if they can, maybe you can, too. Maybe we all can.

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What is it you’re waiting to be picked for? Share in the comments.

*Hat tip to Seth Godin for giving me the language to articulate this idea.

197 thoughts on “Stop Waiting to Be Picked or Your Dreams Will Die

  1. ” You’ll also get regular inspiration and tips delivered straight to your inbox.”
    Couldn’t I get them delivered “curved” to my inbox? 🙂

  2. Awesome article, I love this topic because it is so important especially as artists to stop waiting around to be told we’re good enough. Have you heard of James Altucher’s book Choose Yourself? It deals with this topic too. Glad I found your website

  3. Awesome article, I love this topic because it is so important especially
    as artists to stop waiting around to be told we’re good enough. Have
    you heard of James Altucher’s book Choose Yourself?
    unduh aplikasi

  4. Hey Jeff…First love the new pic of you on your home page. 2nd could not agree more. 3rd yes thanks to Seth for giving us all this language not just to articulate to others but to look at what we’re doing and say…hey I can choose myself.

    A few years back at a Google event I met Seth, and when the Q&A opened up I got to ask the first question…they could not pick someone else because I rose my hand in true Arnold Horshack fashion if you know what I mean 🙂

    In answering my question he suggested I start a personal blog…which I did the very next day. I write about the business and marketing things that interest me and I did not make any attempts to monetize it. Some guy read a post I wrote and sent me an email (comments not active) to let me know how much he enjoyed it…it was David Meerman Scoot…this alone was payment enough for me to think that David had read one of my blog post…but I know for sure he read at least two because he mentioned them in the email.

    Last year I get a call from another guy who read my post 7 Things Anyone Can Do To Be Successful and offered me $1,000 to come do a workshop with a small group of high school students for 2 hours…I would have done it for free. Turns out this guy works for the legendary Kenny Gamble who now runs 40 charter schools across the country.

    Next month I’ve been invited to talk with students at the YMCA Achievers and LaSalle University about this same topic. I call it Get Up And Do Your Thang! (if you’re not doing your thang, you’re doing someone else’s)(A little James Brown spin on the Pick Yourself idea). Anyone interested can read about it here

    Last thing…In 2014 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer. I shared on my blog because I wanted to let as many men and their loved ones learn about the importance of early detection. That post has landed me an opportunity to work with a major health organization to do marketing campaigns to increase educational awareness. I hate to make a plug but please read this post it’s so important for men and their families at – it explains the importance of a finger exam in detecting prostate cancer.

    Hey man I’m sorry I was so long winded but this topic really resonates with me.

  5. Excellent! They key is that, by ‘picking yourself’, you are becoming one of the 2%, rather than fitting in with the other 98%. This makes it a lot easier to ‘stand out from the crowd’.

    The people who achieve true greatness, are the ones who go and create true greatness. There’s nobody there to hand them exclusive membership for free.

    It’s a path few choose to tread, so it’s imperative you sharpen your tools so you can find your way. That’s where, as Jeff puts it, an ‘apprenticeship’ may help.

    Great book BTW. The Art of Work is most definitely an art in itself!

  6. I needed to receive this message today!! I’m now realizing that you don’t have to wait for opportunity, you can create it for yourself! I’m learning there’ll be times where you’ll be the only one to see/understand your dream. You have to make others see what your vision is and I’m ok with that. At 21, I’m finally taking that major step all by myself, for myself. I will become a successful author and the work I need to put in doesn’t scare me, it excites me. Thank you for the daily motivation. It’s helping me believe in my own work and how I can inspire others with it!

  7. Great article, and very true. I searched around a while looking for someone to ‘pick’ me, and when I couldn’t find anyone, I decided to ‘pick’ myself. Because I took a chance and self published a book, as of this morning I can add Amazon Best Seller to my resume, as my family devotion book made it to the #1 spot in the children’s ministry category. Great advice Jeff–keep up the good work.

  8. Waited and waited until I had enough. I decided to hire myself as the sole employee in my new business instead of waiting for someone to hire me for theirs! So liberating. I’m so confident and optimistic, I am excited before it’s even proven to be a success. I know it will be.

  9. I am on a building up Phase, will anyone find me ! I know that nothing good comes without GREAT works. Thanks Jeff.

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  12. Hi Jeff!
    The fisrt time that I read you, I was waiting to find someone who only writes for himself, but when I started to read more articles, I change my opinion in all ways.
    I think you are not intelligent, you are smart, beacause someone who only express for himself will fall in the haughtiness, and you my dear Jeff, you share your success to motivate the entry world.
    I am FIFTEEN yesrs old, a high-school student, and I am glad about having this kind of tools where I can find you.
    You inspired me to be an independent woman for the future, and I will remeber the phrase “Be your own hero” forever, because the people who achieve their goals by themself and for themself will be a successfull people.
    Now, I am trying to inspire other people let them knowing that they are able to do whatever they want to do.
    I will try to be like you, a SMART person.

    1. Eliabet–I love your response to Jeff Goins. I also have a penchant for young Latinas who choose to dream and plan for the future! I teach high school. Check out: and be encouraged, Ms. Reyes! –Jessica

  13. In the “about you” there was a description of you trying to take over the internet. Unfortunately, that is all I feel here. It lacks the passion but contains every bit of ego and self interest, layered by a degree of truth. It is mediocre fluff that can inspire and fool some, but lacks substance. You are a marketing genius, not necessarily a writer.

  14. Inspirational, Jeff.

    I know how it feels like to just not want to fail and suck. And the worst part is that those things comes with starting out.

    For example, I used to have a love/ hate relationship with drawing (I still do, a little) where I love the craft, I love translating emotions into visual forms but when I sit down and do it, I can never be so close to my ideals. It a pain in the butt!

    We all want to magically be so good, so perfect that others will pick us out like in those adventure books. But in reality, if you want to be the hero, you’ve gotta put in the hours, the sweat and tears.

    Thanks you for sharing!


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